One of the most powerful realizations I had from watching the transformation in the amazing women who attended the Loving Me Always Retreat is that practicing radical self-love helps you to realize that YOU are worthy. Not just on a surface level — but on a deep, soulful level.
All of us came into this world knowing we are loved, lovable, and loving. Then life happens! We are affected and influenced by people who have been hurt themselves and inadvertently (and sometimes intentionally) hurt us. The result? We start to believe that we are not good enough as we are. We believe that we have to hide certain things about ourselves or contort who we are into something else in order to be loved and accepted. Essentially we believe we’re not worthy.
Well, I’m here to remind you that YOU ARE WORTHY JUST AS YOU ARE!
Yes, you may have hurt people. Yes, you’ve acted in ways that were not in your own best interest or in the best interest of others at times. Yes, you’ve done things that you don’t feel great about. So what? That doesn’t mean you’re not worthy! It just means you forgot who you are. Who you are is a divine, magnificent, powerful beyond measure being.
The way to remind yourself is to practice Radical Self-Love. Radical Self-Love is a process that I created that helps you achieve unconditional self-love and acceptance. The process involves consistently working on the four cornerstones of Radical Self-Love:
1. Connect to the Divine WITHIN you so that you can improve your intuition, manifest what you want, and feel an eternal sense of strength and love.
2. Honor your body temple so that you have a healthy vessel to help you manifest what you want.
3. Cultivate emotional authenticity so that unexpressed underlying emotions don’t derail you or cause you harm.
4. Master your mind so that your mind becomes a powerful ally in creating a joy-filled life rather than tearing you down with judgments and criticism.
Here’s one exercise you can do each day that will help you cultivate Radical Self-Love and improve your self-worth:
Face yourself in the mirror. Look deeply in your eyes each day for at least 1 minute. During this time, all you are doing is looking in your eyes — not just on a surface level, but more deeply. Don’t look anywhere else other than your eyes, especially don’t look at things that you normally criticize. Then silently say to yourself, “I love and accept you. You’re worth it!”
Practice this daily over the next 30 days and watch how much your life transforms. If you are having a particularly difficult time looking in the mirror, then start with 10 seconds and work your way to one minute. Or, start by stating the affirmations with your eyes closed.
For some people, you will feel better and stronger immediately. For others, you may not feel deep self-love or worthiness right away . . . you may even feel worse temporarily. This is because you have underlying pain or hurt that needs to be released before you can welcome the affirming messages (I call this stage the getting your soil ready). Be patient with yourself and your process.
The bottom line is that the more you do this work, the easier it becomes to attract what you want out of life – whether it’s healthy relationships, more success, better health, or all around fulfillment. The more you claim your worth, the more the Divine supports you in that belief!
Remember, you’re worth it!